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I love writing, as it’s one of the most therapeutic things I can do, and aside from my 14 year old chihuahua named Squirt, writing has helped me get through some really tough times over the past few years.  Just a year ago after a very bad break up, I found myself writing everyday for almost a month, many times doing so at like 3 or 4am, knowing that if I didn’t write out what was in my head I would never be able to sleep.  This stint of unloading my thoughts into my 13″ Macbook Pro eventually turned into a small book, one that no one will ever get to read.

My last blog post dates back to March 2016 which was titled “Make More Mistakes” and it was around that time that I felt that I had nothing else to write.  It was almost like the end of a very long several months of therapy, with my last blog post being the last visit to the doctor’s office.  If you read back through my posts before that you’ll see that the overall theme was the result of being hurt from the breakup and working through the after math and a broken heart.  This blog exists as a place for me to share my thoughts, my life, and lessons learned in hopes that it will help someone else, so if you come through here regularly then I hope it has done just that.

There have been many times since March where I say to myself “Hmm, I need to blog about something, it’s been so long” only to find myself sitting in front of my computer with nothing to write.  I won’t write and make up some bull shit just for the sake of blogging, but today I felt the urge to write about nothing.  Haha.

I have a lot of “blogger” friends that work to keep their blogs fresh and updated with new content, hoping to increase their following and website traffic, etc.  There are entire blogging communities that work to help each other do the same, but that doesn’t really interest me.  This is an outlet for me and I’ll write when I feel like I actually have something to say and today the only thing that I have to say is “Hello” and share that I haven’t really had anything to write lately.  LOL.

If you have a blog or some type of online presence, write what you feel and every time you write, be sure to feel what you write.  Let everything that you write have purpose and don’t be afraid to admit the times that you simply have nothing to say.  You’ll find your writing to be much more powerful and enjoyable when it comes from your heart.

I’ve learned a lot about myself this past year and I have tons to write about, I just haven’t felt the need to share it.  I think that over the next few weeks I’ll take time to share the many lessons that I’ve learned and provide some insight and tools that have been life savers for me.  I have an entire series that I could devote to therapy and how valuable and life changing it can be.  Maybe I’ll start with that in a few days.  Maybe.

Till then, have an awesome day, or week.



I’m 37 years old.  I don’t act my age and many people always tell me that I look 10 years younger.  Ha, those are definitely compliments.  At my age I’m still riding bmx bikes and riding around with people half my age and fitting right in (I think).  I don’t have to try hard, it’s just who I am.  Yeah, I would say that I’m basically one big kid trapped in a man’s body.  A very beautiful body by the way.  haha.  Kidding of course.  No, really.

I’m definitely a Toys-R-Us kid and have no intentions of “growing up” anytime soon.  It’s funny because at family parties I always find myself hanging out with the kids and without fail, if there is a moonwalk at one of these parties, I end up inside.  I don’t know why.

This “kid” inside of me is something I embrace though.  You hear people all the time complaining about aging too quickly and wishing they were 20 years younger.  Ha, I don’t complain, I just do what I feel in my heart and if this heart wants to play around on a bmx bike until it’s 5o years old, I probably will.  Why should kids be the only ones allowed in moonwalks or on slip-n-slides anyway?  We only live once.  Live like you mean it.  And like my Facebook friend Gengis Suarez says it, “Live Hard”.

Well, if there really is a “kid” inside of me, I’m discovering it even more as I work on a new children’s book.  The idea came through a Facebook contest where a friend was asking “friends” to share stories on how they met him (friend is Drew Canole).  I decided to enter and since I’ve never met Drew, I could only make up a story.  Less than 5 minutes later my story involved Drew riding around on a vespa scooter with his puppy who’s name was “Puppy”, they crashed into a light pole, were thrown into the snow, I heard the crash while cutting wood with no shirt on so that my abs could breathe, and by the end of this story I was carrying Drew and Puppy up a hill and doctoring them by a warm fire.  Ha, as crazy as this story sounds, it was super funny at the time and sparked the beginnings of an idea for a number of kid’s books.

I started working on this concept a couple of months ago and with the help of a wonderful friend, I was inspired to develop these characters along with many others.  What started out as one book idea is now a series, all with a very good and encouraging message.  The books will fall under the title “The Adventures of Drew & Puppy” and will chronicle the life of these two partners as they travel their town and possibly the country in search of the ultimate adventure.  In their search they find themselves in situations that teach them that the ultimate adventure is not in climbing mountains or exploring new territory, but in meeting new people and helping others and doing good.

I’m picking the writing back up and finishing up this first book soon.  I’m doing all of the illustrations myself and may get some help from other designers.  The image above is the cover of the first book with Drew and Puppy chillin on their Vespa scooter.  The release will be something we do in conjunction with a huge party and benefit.  I’ll keep everyone posted through Facebook and this blog.  I’m hoping that these books make a difference in kid’s lives and help create a “Shift” in them early on.

– Hector

A heart-shaped pen

March 24, 2010 — Leave a comment


Those that know me well know that I’m a guy with a huge heart.  Not a huge physical heart of course (how would they know that?), but the other one.  The one that’s full of love and passion and lots of other stuff.  If I love something or someone, I pour my whole heart into “it”.  I believe that if you’re passionate enough about something, why only give it 50% of yourself?  Why not give 100%?  If you love someone, why only give a portion of your heart?  Why not give them all of it?  Right?

Well, this is how I live and this is what you’ll get if you know me and are a part of my life.  I doubt that I’ll ever be accused of not being passionate enough.  I hope I don’t?  Life is too short to simply be content and settle for whatever.  You can’t fake passion either.  It’s either in you or it’s not.  And if you ever have to question whether you’re passionate about something or someone, then you’re probably not.

With this said, there’s one thing that I’ve realized over the years that I am passionate about, and that’s writing.  Not just writing for the sake of writing, but writing what’s on and in my heart.  If you’re a close friend or family member, you may have received one of my heartfelt letters once or maybe twice.  They’re sometimes short and sweet, while other times they can be described as “novels”, as one dear friend described them.  In addition to my novels I simply love writing stories.  What’s funny is that i didn’t realize that until this year.  It’s been sitting there, waiting to come out and it’s coming out in the form of kid’s stories.  Don’t worry, I’ll be blogging about this later this week.

The written word is powerful though.  Words alone are powerful, but putting them down on paper or typing them in an email makes them permanent and brings them to life.  Words have the ability to tear down someone or lift them up.  The written word can make the difference between someone doing something great or someone giving up.  They can cause someone to fall for you . . . or run from you.

So, if you you’re going to write, at least do it with all of your heart.  If you’re going to send a letter to someone you love, be sure to give the recipient no room to question how you really feel.  Yeah, that’s right, put it all out there.  If someone needs advice or counsel and you feel you have some answers, don’t hold back, put it all in there.  Do it with care and use your words wisely.  Just be sure that your heart is inside.  Do that and you can be assured that your words will be nothing less than powerful.

– Hector

Note:  Graphic above is from the portfolio of artist Konstantin Shalev on