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I love writing, as it’s one of the most therapeutic things I can do, and aside from my 14 year old chihuahua named Squirt, writing has helped me get through some really tough times over the past few years.  Just a year ago after a very bad break up, I found myself writing everyday for almost a month, many times doing so at like 3 or 4am, knowing that if I didn’t write out what was in my head I would never be able to sleep.  This stint of unloading my thoughts into my 13″ Macbook Pro eventually turned into a small book, one that no one will ever get to read.

My last blog post dates back to March 2016 which was titled “Make More Mistakes” and it was around that time that I felt that I had nothing else to write.  It was almost like the end of a very long several months of therapy, with my last blog post being the last visit to the doctor’s office.  If you read back through my posts before that you’ll see that the overall theme was the result of being hurt from the breakup and working through the after math and a broken heart.  This blog exists as a place for me to share my thoughts, my life, and lessons learned in hopes that it will help someone else, so if you come through here regularly then I hope it has done just that.

There have been many times since March where I say to myself “Hmm, I need to blog about something, it’s been so long” only to find myself sitting in front of my computer with nothing to write.  I won’t write and make up some bull shit just for the sake of blogging, but today I felt the urge to write about nothing.  Haha.

I have a lot of “blogger” friends that work to keep their blogs fresh and updated with new content, hoping to increase their following and website traffic, etc.  There are entire blogging communities that work to help each other do the same, but that doesn’t really interest me.  This is an outlet for me and I’ll write when I feel like I actually have something to say and today the only thing that I have to say is “Hello” and share that I haven’t really had anything to write lately.  LOL.

If you have a blog or some type of online presence, write what you feel and every time you write, be sure to feel what you write.  Let everything that you write have purpose and don’t be afraid to admit the times that you simply have nothing to say.  You’ll find your writing to be much more powerful and enjoyable when it comes from your heart.

I’ve learned a lot about myself this past year and I have tons to write about, I just haven’t felt the need to share it.  I think that over the next few weeks I’ll take time to share the many lessons that I’ve learned and provide some insight and tools that have been life savers for me.  I have an entire series that I could devote to therapy and how valuable and life changing it can be.  Maybe I’ll start with that in a few days.  Maybe.

Till then, have an awesome day, or week.



Music is powerful.  Videos for that music can be even more powerful.  Those were my thoughts this morning as I watched a Katy Perry video for her new song “Firework”.  The imagery of fireworks shooting out from everyone’s chest along with lyrics that encourage doing and being something great is inspiring.  Of course I find inspiration in just about anything and yes, I know, what is a grown man doing watching a Katy Perry video.  Ha, it is what it is.

Initially the sight of stuff shooting out of Katy’s chest was a little crazy but as the song progressed I realized how much power there was in this message.  Do you know how many people around us need to hear this today?  Can you imagine how many coworkers or classmates you might have that feel worthless or feel like life has not been very good to them?  We could all use a little encouragement to be something bigger and better.  We could all benefit from a push to show the world what we’re worth.  Because in reality, everyone one of us is worth more than we know.

We live in a world that can be very unfriendly to those that don’t look a certain way or that don’t act a certain way.  This world puts a lot of value on image, money, and status, things that say very little about who a person really is.  Be whoever you are today and “shoot the finger” to the world.  You are who are.  Embrace who you are.  Shoot your fireworks from your chest proudly.  And don’t just settle for little fireworks like black cats or those gay little sparklers that you hold in your hand and wave around.  Let your fireworks be the “Big Tex” package that you always see sitting on the top shelf at the fireworks stand.  Light that thing up and let everyone sit back in amazement, as you shine brighter than any of the little bottle rockets and roman candles on the block.

You’re worth more than you know.  Show the world.  Blow something up.

– Hector