IT’S ALL ABOUT WINNING
Saturday mornings at the Garcia house always involve two things, coffee and TV, oh and checking emails, oh and dogs. As I sit here doing a little work and sipping on a hot cup of Dunkin Donuts coffee, the movie Kicking and Screaming is on, featuring Will Ferrell, the funniest man in the world. Haha, all Will has to do is stand there and he cracks me up.
The movie is about a kids soccer team, coached by Will Ferrell, who is the worst coach ever and who’s only concern is winning games. For him it’s not about the kids but is only about destroying the other team. As the movie progresses, Will’s obsession gets out of hand and the kids and their parents have to witness him literally become a crazy man on a mission to win the championship.
During the last game of the movie he comes to his senses, as he realizes how much damage he’s done, especially to the relationship with his son. He makes amends and as he addresses the team before their last game he says these words, “It’s not about winning . . . it’s about having fun”. We’ve heard this line so many times and it usually has to do with sports and team work, but when I heard it this morning I immediately thought about how much this applies to relationships.
Over the past couple of weeks or more, for some reason, I’ve found myself providing counsel to friends in relationships and I’ve amazed myself at what comes out of my mouth. Recent life circumstances and situations have given me a new appreciation for life & love and I have a sincere desire to see couples succeed and be happy with one another. I want to see them thrive and build each other up, and even with couples who have been together for a while, I want to see them be strong for one another, continue to grow, and not lose site of who they have by their side. If there is a lot of love there, then my desire is to always see love win, because a strong deep love is what will always get you through some of the toughest times with one another. If you give up on that love, then you give up on each other, and well, we know what happens from there.
When i heard the phrase this morning “it’s not about winning, it’s about having fun” I thought about how serious couples can make a relationship and forget about having fun with one another. I know that sometimes life can take over and consume us, but don’t ever stop having fun with your partner, wife, or husband. Life is too short to be so serious all of the time and if you can’t have fun with your mate then something is wrong. Your mate should be your best friend and the person that you enjoy being with more than anyone. Don’t allow work or even the kids to get in the way of ensuring that your relationship is fun, spontaneous, and alive. You two will be useless to your kids if their parents are in a cold dead situation.
It’s the weekend, and a long one, get outside. Go ride bikes. Find some live music playing somewhere and call the baby sitter. Go play. Do something you haven’t done yet and enjoy each other. Let the weekend include lots of hugs and kisses, and yes, maybe even some Netflix. Haha. We all know what happens when Netflix is on.
Have a good weekend everyone. Let love win, and have fun.
@hectorgarcia
