HECTOR’S SEARCH FOR HAPPINESS: PART 4
Today is the last day in the series that I’ve been writing called Hector’s Search for Happiness. I hope you guys have enjoyed it and that somewhere in this stuff you’ve found something to take to heart and chew on. My ultimate goal in this and in anything that I write is to encourage and build you up. My life isn’t awesome everyday by any means and I have my share of daily struggles, but just like anyone else I want to be happy and I want my life to matter. Your life matters and I believe that every person on this earth has a purpose. Figuring out that purpose should be your daily mission and in doing so I feel that you will learn a lot about yourself, which brings me to my first list for today which is Loving Yourself.
HAPPINESS IS LOVING YOURSELF
I’ve traced my life back as far as I can remember and I don’t think that I ever really struggled with self esteem issues. I don’t feel like I’m a great looking person and I do have about 10 – 15 lbs to lose around my waist line, but my confidence doesn’t come from how I look, it’s just the way that I’m wired. For some, self confidence will come naturally while for others it has to be taught and developed.
If there was one ultimate source for happiness I feel that it will come from how you feel about yourself. This can come from how you view yourself physically to how you feel about your purpose in the world. This morning the comedian Amy Schumer was on the Today show and she talked about how walking in self confidence has not always been easy but that she has found her stride and she is doing what she can to encourage others. In Amy’s words she’s not a “skinny” person and in one of her comedy bits she describes what goes on under her clothes as a lava lamp, where everything just moves around all lazy and slow, waiting to be released with the unzipping of the back of her dress. It’s great that she can make fun of herself through her comedy and she does a great job of using humor to lift people up.
If we can learn anything from Amy it’s that size doesn’t matter and it’s all about what’s in your heart. Who you are as a person is more about what’s going on in the inside that what the world sees on the outside. I have encountered some very shallow people in my life who are beautiful people physically, but unfortunately lack substance and heart. While on the other end I know people who some may say are overweight and not that physically attractive yet they have hearts of gold and are making a difference in the world. Those are the people that I want to know and those are the kinds of people that we can learn from.
Focus on finding your place in this world and surround yourself with “beautiful” people with “beautiful” hearts. Build one another up daily and in doing this it will undoubtedly help you with your own self confidence. Also, don’t fall into the trap of comparing yourself to others on social media, which can be one of the biggest confidence killers. Know that everything that we see online is not the real world and your friend’s photos of how awesome their life is and how happy they are on vacation or at the beach is not the whole story. If you’re not careful you’ll find yourself comparing your life to others and beating yourself up because you can’t post amazing before and after fitness photos from your bathroom.
HAPPINESS IS RIDING MY BIKE
When I was 12yrs old and we moved to Spring Branch into some huge new apartment complex called Afton Village. I give the apartment name because I would love to hear from anyone who lived there as well back in the day. That place was seriously it’s own little city and I have some great memories from that one year of living there. One of my fondest memories was seeing BMX freestyle in person for the first time in my life. I remember walking through the complex and being stopped in my tracks as I saw someone playing around on their bike about 100 yards away. I was mesmerized by what I was seeing and it changed my life forever. Not long after seeing this my mom bought me my first BMX bike and I rode the hell out of that thing. I slowly began trying to do whatever tricks I saw that guy do at Afton and by ninth grade I become one of about 20 other BMX flatland riders in Houston.
I can truly say that my bike changed my life. I loved riding and it was my passion throughout high school and I feel that it kept me out of a lot of trouble. Me and my friends spent hours and many late nights on the weekend riding in parking lots and learning new tricks. I remember coming home from school, not being able to wait to get on my bike and hit the park tennis courts to master that one trick that I had been trying to learn for the past 2 – 3 months. I had found a passion and something I truly loved and it made me happy.
There were several years in the 90s where I abandoned my BMX bike and got into mountain biking and even had a short stint as an aggressive inline skater. LOL, yes, I skated and I would have to say that I became very good at it, buut by 1998 I caught the BMX bug again and picked up where I left off in 1990. Since then I haven’t slowed down and riding my bike and being involved in the cycling community is a passion of mine that makes me happy. I’m sure I’ll be riding around this weekend so keep an eye out for me and don’t run me over.
Friends, love yourself, love others, find your passion and run with it, do what you love and do whatever it takes to be where you’re supposed to be, don’t settle for anything less than what brings true happiness and change the world around you. And if you don’t own a dog or a bike, get your ass out there this weekend I find both. That will be your homework for the weekend. Trust me, you’ll be a very happy person by Monday.